Wrestling 101 For Parents
By Dave Martin – 12/14/2025
Parents—are you new to wrestling, or just need a refresher?
This guide will walk you through the basics of how high school wrestling works. It covers key points I wish I had known when I first entered the sport as a new wrestling parent and spectator—and eventually became a huge wrestling fan!
Table of Contents
- Match Basics and Layout
- Winning A Match
- Scoring Points
- General Rules
- Dual/Tri/Quad Meets
- Tournaments
- Tournament Caveats and Notes
1 – Wrestling Styles
The sport of wrestling is very different from the “professional” wrestling you see on TV (sorry, WWE fans!).
In the United States, the three main styles of wrestling are Folkstyle, Freestyle, and Greco-Roman. Freestyle and Greco-Roman are the styles featured in the Olympics and other international competitions.
High school and college wrestling in the U.S. practice Folkstyle wrestling. While all three styles share many similarities, each has its own rules, scoring system, and allowed techniques.
Fun fact: Outside of the high school season, several Rocky Hill School wrestlers participate in private wrestling clubs where they often train and compete in Freestyle and Greco-Roman during the off-season.
2 – Matches, Scoring, and Basic Rules
High school wrestling matches consist of one wrestler competing against another. Below are the basic parameters that explain how matches are structured and how they work.
Match Basics and Layout
- A wrestling match consists of three periods, each lasting 2 minutes.
- Matches typically have no rest periods or timeouts, unless there is an injury, blood time, or an official stoppage.
- Matches take place on a wrestling mat featuring a 28-foot circle where all action must stay in bounds.
- Wrestlers wear:
- Wrestling shoes for traction and safety
- Protective headgear to protect the ears
- A singlet, which is the standard competition uniform; some exceptions are allowed
- Each match has at least one referee. For special matches, such as championships or tournaments, two referees may be used.
- Each wrestler is assigned a color—red or green—to help officials track scoring. Wrestlers wear a colored ankle band matching their assigned color.
- One or two coaches per wrestler are positioned in the corner of the mat and may actively coach their wrestler during the match.
- A scoring table is typically located at the top of the mat and includes a scoreboard that displays the match timer and current scores.
Winning A Match
There are 4 ways to win/end a match in High School Folkstyle Wrestling:
- Fall (aka Pin) – This occurs when a wrestler holds both of the opponents shoulders blades on the mat simultaneously for two seconds. The pinning wrestler must be in control and have their opponent in a near fall position. A fall ends the match immediately, regardless of the score or time remaining.
- Technical Superiority (aka Tech Fall, Tech) – This occurs when a wrestler leads their opponent by 15 points or more at any point during the match. Once this happens, the match ends immediately, regardless of the remaining time.
- Decision – This occurs after match time has elapsed and the wrestler with the most points wins. If a wrestler is 8 or more points ahead, this can be referred to as a Major Decision.
- Injury/Disqualification/Forfeit/Withdrawal – A wrestler can win if their opponent is unable to continue due to too many rule violations, forfeiture, injury, withdrawal, etc.
There are no ties/draws in a wrestling match, there is always a winner. If the score is tied at the end of the 3 periods, a 1-minute overtime period will start that is sudden-victory, meaning the first to score the next point wins. If the match is still tied, there are two 30-second overtime periods with each wrestler alternating between top/bottom position. It is uncommon for a tie after this point but there are additional overtime rules in the event of a further tie.
Scoring Points
In Folkstyle wrestling, a wrestler’s position on the mat determines how points are scored. There are three main positions:
1. Neutral
- Both wrestlers are standing and neither has control.
- Wrestlers attempt takedowns to gain control and score points. A takedown is typically forcing one wrestler to the mat while maintaining control of that wrestler. Control is key.
- A successful takedown awards the wrestler 4 points.
- After a takedown, the wrestlers are now in the top/bottom positions described below.
2. Offense (Top)
- One wrestler is controlling the opponent on the mat. The controlling wrestler is considered “on top”. The other wrestler is in the defensive “on bottom” position (described below).
- The goal for the top wrestler is to turn and hold the bottom wrestler on their back to earn near-fall points. These are the only points the top wrestler can score in this position.
- Near-Fall Points (aka Back Points) can earn 2 to 4 points depending how long the top wrestler holds the bottom wrestler on their back, between 2 to 4 seconds.
- The top wrestler can also pin the bottom wrestler in this position, immediately winning the match.
3. Defense (Bottom)
- When one wrestler is in control and “on top” (described above), the other wrestler is always considered on defense or “on bottom”.
- The bottom wrestler can only score points by escaping or reversing.
- To escape, the bottom wrestler simply gets out of control of the top wrestler and breaks free, typically by standing up. Escapes earn 1 point. Once an escape occurs, the wrestlers return to a neutral position. The top wrestler will sometimes intentionally let the bottom wrestler up giving them an escape point, however, this is strategic and allows the top wrestler to attempt another takedown for 4 points.
- To reverse, the bottom wrestler takes control of the top wrestler without first escaping. Reversals earn 2 points. Once a reversal occurs, the wrestlers have switched top and bottom positions.
Notes
- The first period in a match is started in the neutral position.
- At the start of the second period, the referee flips a coin to determine which wrestler will decide the starting position of the second period. The wrestler can choose neutral, top, bottom, or defer the choice to the other wrestler.
- The third period gives the other wrestler the opportunity to choose the starting position.
- There are many strategic reasons on what position to choose or to defer.
- When starting or restarting in the down position, wrestlers use what’s call the Referee’s Position.
- Penalties for technical violations are 1 point awarded to the other wrestler.
General Rules
While there are many technical rules in high school wrestling, there are some general concepts that are important to know:
- Matches take place on a 28-foot circle; if wrestlers step outside the circle, the referee stops the match and restarts in the center.
- Wrestlers must keep headgear on.
- Wrestlers cannot leave the mat without permission.
Legal Moves
- Takedowns – Bringing an opponent to the mat and gaining control.
- Escapes – Getting out from underneath an opponent.
- Reversals – Turning from a defensive to an offensive position.
- Turns / Near-Falls – Exposing an opponent’s back to the mat.
Illegal Moves
- Dangerous Holds – Moves that can injure the neck, spine, or joints, such as: Full nelsons, Chokeholds, any pressure that twists or locks the neck in a dangerous way.
- Slams and Throws – Intentionally slamming an opponent on their head, neck, or back. Throwing an opponent dangerously from a standing position onto the mat.
- Striking, Punching, or Kicking – Punching, kicking, or hitting the opponent in any way. Elbowing, scratching, or clawing.
- Grabbing Illegal Areas – Clothing, fingers, toes, hair, or headgear.
- Unsportsmanlike Conduct – Taunting or arguing with the referee, refusing to wrestle, stalling, or intentionally avoiding action.
- Referees prioritize safety over competition and referees may penalize or disqualify a wrestler for illegal moves.
3 – Meets and Tournaments
Competition falls into two basic types in high school wresting:
- Dual/Tri/Quad Meets
- Tournaments
Dual/Tri/Quad Meets
- What – Dual meets are team vs team competitions in which Rocky Hill will face another school. Tri and Quad meets are less common but are the same format and will include 1 or 2 additional schools respectively were each school’s team will face each team one at a time.
- When – These typically occur during the week, mostly on Wednesdays. The types of meets are the shortest.
- Number of Wrestlers – Each team will put up only 14 wrestlers, one from each weight class. That’s it!
After the meet is complete and all 14 matches are done, there may some JV matches to give experience to wrestlers who did not compete in the dual. - Format/Winning – To win a dual meet, the team with the most team points win. A team earns 3-6 points for each of the 14 matches depending how each match is won. Only the team that wins a match is awarded team points. The amount of team points earned per match is:
- Fall (aka Pin) – 6 Team Points
- Forfeit – 6 Team Points
- Technical Fall (match won 15+ points) – 5 Team Points
- Major Decision (match won by 8-14 points) – 4 Team Points
- Minor Decision (match won by fewer than 8 points) – 3 Team Points
Having a full roster of wrestlers in every weight class is important for winning dual meets. Teams will forfeit any weight class that is not filled, giving the other team an automatic 6 points. This is why it is important that wrestlers stay healthy, attend all practices, and maintain good grades so they compete in the meets.
Tournaments
- What – Tournaments are individual events that give each wrestler an opportunity to put their skills to the test. Tournaments will include many schools but typically no more than a dozen or so.
- When – These are typically the competitions that occur during the weekend, mostly on Saturdays and will last most of the day. Some tournaments can even last multiple days.
- Number of Wrestlers – All wrestlers are typically able to compete if they make their weight class. This is different from a Dual/Tri/Quad meet which only allows one wrestler per weight class per team.
- Format/Winning – Tournaments brackets can vary but they are almost always a double-elimination bracket. What do the brackets look like?
- Championship Bracket
- Each weight class in a tournament has a bracket usually with 16–32 wrestlers (sometimes more or less).
- Wrestlers compete in rounds, and the winner of each match advances to the next round.
- This main bracket is usually called the Winners Bracket or Championship Bracket.
- The bracket continues until 1st and 2nd place are determined.
- Consolation Bracket
- If a wrestler loses a match in the Winner’s Bracket, they move to the Consolation Bracket (often called “Consi” or Losers Bracket).
- The Consolation Bracket continues until 3rd place (and sometimes 4th or 5th place) is determined.
- This ensures that each wrestler gets to wrestle at least twice, as a wrestler must lose twice to be eliminated from the tournament entirely.
- Championship Bracket
Tournament Caveats and Notes
Seeding
Most wrestling tournaments “seed” the brackets to help ensure that the results reflect the true skill levels of the wrestlers.
- What it means: Wrestlers are ranked using multiple factors—such as past performance, wins, and skill level—and placed strategically in the bracket.
- Purpose: This prevents the top wrestlers from facing each other too early, which helps the tournament produce fairer and more accurate results.
- The concept of seeding can sometimes seem complicated or arbitrary, but as a parent, it’s enough to know that seeding exists to help organize the competition fairly.
- Don’t worry about the exact rankings—just know that highly skilled wrestlers are usually spaced out in the bracket to keep the matches competitive throughout the tournament.
Team Points
- Some tournaments track team points, similar to a dual meet, but this is usually not the main focus.
- Occasionally, a team may be declared the tournament winner based on team points, but this can be misleading, as teams with more participants have a higher potential to score points.
- In most tournaments, the primary focus is on individual performance and placing in each weight class, rather than which team earns the most points.
- Don’t be surprised if a team wins the “team trophy” even if another team has stronger individual wrestlers.
- When watching tournaments, it’s best to follow your wrestler and their bracket, rather than the team score.
Special Tournaments
There are 4 special tournaments in our season that typically last multiple days:
Central Connecticut Conference (CCC) Tournament – This involves all the schools in this conference competing together. This tournament determines the season’s champion school for the CCC. Rocky Hill is one of the smallest schools in this conference.
Class S Division Tournament – This tournament is the last event of the main season and includes all the CT wrestling teams in Class S Division. Division sizes in CT are based on school size with Class S being the smallest schools. Each wrestler who places 1st – 5th place in this tournament is allowed to compete in the CT State Open Tournament.
CT State Open Tournament – This tournament is the state championship for Connecticut with the placers from all 4 Class (S, M, L, and LL) Division Tournaments competing. This tournament also includes a girls tournament open to all girls in Connecticut. Wrestlers who place in this tournament are allowed to compete in the New England Championships.
New England Championships – This tournament includes all the state placers from CT, RI, MA, ME, NH, and VT. Like the CT State Open, this tournament has a girls bracket.
FloWrestling
As you can imagine, keeping track of a tournament can be a ton of work. Most tournaments use a program called FloWrestling Arena to track real-time match status and backets. There is also an app available from Flo but most parents find the website easier to use. Be sure to find one of the veteran parents to walk you through the basics of using Flo.
4 – Weight
Talking about weight classes may not be the fun part of wrestling but it’s important and here are some key things to know:
Wrestlers compete within a weight class. This is done for many reasons:
- Fairness/Safety – A larger, stronger wrestler could easily overpower a smaller one, leading to possible injury. Weight classes ensure skill, technique, and strategy matter more than size.
- Health Management – Structured weight classes encourage athletes to stay closer to their natural weight range, reducing health risks associated with extreme dehydration or extreme diets.
- Structured Competitions – Creates clear brackets and divisions for tournaments and meets making organization and ranking possible.
- Promotes Different Styles and Equality – Lighter classes often favor speed, agility, and continuous movement, while heavier classes emphasize power and strength, showcasing diverse wrestling styles. This allows athletes with different natural builds to compete meaningfully.
Weight Classes
High School wrestling in Connecticut is governed by the Connecticut Interscholastic Athletic Conference (CIAC) who determines weight classes and the rules. The CIAC currently uses the 14 weight classes set by the NFHS (National Federation of State High School Associations):
- 106 lb
- 113 lb
- 120 lb
- 126 lb
- 132 lb
- 138 lb
- 144 lb
- 150 lb
- 157 lb
- 165 lb
- 175 lb
- 190 lb
- 215 lb
- 285 lb
A wrestler cannot generally exceed the weight listed in the class. For example, a wrestler weighing 146 lbs would wrestle in the 150 lb weight class.
It’s important to note that wrestlers are typically given weight allowances of 1-2 lbs during the season for natural growth and during multi-day tournaments. The coaching staff will let the wrestlers know where they stand in regards to weight class and weight allowances allowed.
Setting Weight Classes and Making Weight
- Weigh-Ins – Wrestlers will weigh in before every tournament or match, typically on the morning of the competition, to ensure they are under or at their weight class max weight. There are no exceptions to this and wrestlers who do not meet weight will not compete. Quick note, the scales used for weigh-ins are much more accurate and consistent than most home scales. We have found our home scale to be several pounds off from these scales at times.
- Weight Certification – At the start of the season, all wrestlers will conduct a weight certification that tests body fat and hydration to determine the lowest allowed weight class they can wrestle in for the season. This is a very rigid system in CT that is designed for athlete safety. The certification is conducted by the school’s trainer (not coaches) and any allowable exceptions require physician approval. This certification CANNOT be changed for the season.
- Determining Weight Class – The coaches will work with wrestlers based on a combination of skill, experience, team needs, and weight (obviously) on which weight class a wrestler will compete in.
Even if a wrestler meets their target weight class, coaches may choose not to allow a wrestler to compete in a specific match if safety is a concern, for example, an inexperienced freshman wrestling an older senior with 3+ years of experience.
Coaches may allow more experienced or skilled wrestlers to compete in a heavier weight class, if safe. Competing in a heavier weight class is typically a disadvantage for a wrestler so this is a limited occurrence.
Wrestler safety is always paramount in every decision. Coaches, trainers, and refs monitor matches closely to prevent and stop any potentially dangerous wrestling that could lead to injury. - Weight Loss – Wrestlers are allowed to lose weight throughout the season but are limited to 1.5% of body weight loss per week down to their allowed certified minimum weight set at the beginning of the season. However, this must be done in conjunction with the coaches to effectively manage the team roster and help ensure athlete safety. Do not attempt any sort of drastic weight loss during the season. Not only could this be dangerous, you may not be able to wrestle due to the strict weight rules.
Girls Wrestling
Currently in CT, girls do not have a distinct division during the normal wrestling season. Therefore, high school wrestling in CT is co-ed where boys and girls compete together in the same weight classes.
However, there are several opportunities throughout the season for the girls to participate in girls-only tournaments including our very own tournament hosted at Rocky Hill called “Queen of the Hill”. Our 2025 tournament had a fantastic turnout with over 150 girls from 42 different schools!
The girl’s tournaments will often have augmented weight classes that can differ from the co-ed weight classes above.
The CT State Open Tournament and the New England Championships have separate girls’ tournaments at the end of the season.
